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Meeting My Hero

November 20, 2007 By: Kari Category: Be the Change Network, Bones That Float, Economic Development, Events, General, Grady Grossman School No Comments →

Sometimes the Universe rewards you for staying true to your calling.

On Saturday I not only met my personal hero, I shared a podium with her. Loung Ung is the international bestselling author of First They Killed My Father and Lucky Child, and a passionate peace activist. She is now also a supporter of The Grady Grossman School in Cambodia.

Loung Ung and Kari Grady Grossman at IBARMS event in Denver.She went first, delivering a heart wrenching speech about her life’s journey from childhood under the Khmer Rouge, to American refugee, and back to Cambodia as an activist for a land mine free world. Over 150 teachers from International Baccalaureate schools in the Rocky Mountain region listened with rapt attention, their minds churning with desire to communicate these events to their students, K-12. The theme of the Denver, Colorado conference was Awareness to Action. Loung spoke to the Awareness part, and I was there to inspire Action.

Seven years ago, while waiting to adopt our son, I bought 20 copies of First They Killed My Father, and sent them to every member of our family for Christmas. Four months later, as I cradled a Cambodian baby boy in my arms, I wanted a book about the conditions in today’s Cambodia to explain why my son was a war orphan - 25 years after the war! There was no such book, and that is why I wrote Bones That Float; it remains the only narrative book out there to connect Cambodia’s history with Cambodia’s present.

It was amazing to listen as Loung’s journey reached the exact same conclusion that mine has, Cambodia needs sustainable lives and teacher support to help rural communities heal the many ills that continue to plague the rebuilding of society to this day. After showing the video of our school, I explained my vision of sustainable, school-based economic development, building a solid foundation of primary education at the grassroots level, partnered with Life Skills & Vocational training, to empower local communities with control over their educational future.

When I finished my speech, Luong gave me thumbs up and a big smile. She asked how she could help me. With her notoriety taking our awareness message to a wide audience, and mine taking our action message deep, I think we can have a powerful effect.

I am going to ask Loung to join me for the world’s largest online book discussion on April 17, 2008. A day of remorse and healing in recognition of the day the Khmer Rouge took over Cambodia, in the year that they are finally being held accountable for it.

Network for Good: Friend for the Grady Grossman School I will call for volunteers to join our school supporting network. Through building relationships and listening to local communities, our partners will find a way for every school to become income-generating and self-supporting in 3 to 5 years. This is a people to people endeavor and our job is to work ourselves out of a job, to usher each school to its own, unique sustainability.

Who will join us?

I Have a Dream…

November 14, 2007 By: Kari Category: Bones That Float, General, Kids Corner, World Education No Comments →

My son Grady, Cambodian born American raised, the inspiration for both a book and a school, has a dream. He’s been studying Martin Luther King this month at his new International Baccalaureate school in Ft. Collins Colorado, where part of the first grade curriculum involves identifying inspiring “risk-takers.” Dr. King is his pick. His impersonation of “little black boys and girls holding hands with little white boys and girls” is quite dramatic, making skin color a hot topic of conversation around our house.

Grady loves to read and normally hates to write. But this assignment to write his own “I have a dream” speech flowed with uncommon ease. Here it is:Grady’s I have a dream speach.

“I have a dream that…..

I could be a inventor and a astronot. I wold make a mountain top exploder. When I be a astronot I wold fix satlites and be a IB World Student and have a happy life.”

- Eric Ratanak Grady Grossman, age 7 , Nov. 14, 2007.

A happy life. A simple dream. Utterly unthinkable for the majority of Cambodia’s children, certainly for those born into the situation that Grady was, fatherless and hungry. For the rest of the story one must read Bones That Float and then you will know why this book is dedicated to the children of Cambodia.

Grady’s dream reminds me daily why I am doing this. Simply put, I believe that every child on this planet has the right to dream and to a happy life.

This is all of our responsibility.

Network for Good: Friend for the Grady Grossman School

The Magical Mystery Book Tour

November 05, 2007 By: Kari Category: Events, General No Comments →

Having put forth my intention that my book, Bones That Float, benefit education in rural Cambodia, I hold onto the integrity of that mission and watch the magic unfold as we attract like-minded souls. I ‘m beginning to believe that this is indeed the way the world is changed. Behold:

Philadelphia, PA. Oct. 24

I spoke to over 500 high school and middle school students at Penn Charter, an elite, private educational institution, where the dedicated staff is focusing that privilege on service learning and a passionate student body is ready to engage in helping to educate disadvantaged children in Cambodia. After a morning spent debating my experience half way around the world with the Penn Charter students, I drove 3 miles down the road to the HOPE LOGAN school in an inner city neighborhood.

Hope Logan is a “street school” occupying a creaky 5 room house, painted pastel blue on a rough neighborhood street, dedicated to educating the children of Southeast Asian refugees, K-8. Forty one of their 48 students are Cambodian. It was begun by adoptive parent Ken McBain, who was drawn by his Christian faith to offer respite from the urban jungle to a population of kids who are lost in mainstream public education to drugs, gang violence, and drop-out. I was humbled by Ken’s dedication to administer education to refugee children who fall through the cracks. Afterward, I wrote to the Penn Charter administrators about Hope Logan to suggest their service learning project incorporate this local refugee “street school” as well. What a wonderful opportunity for the children of privilege to gain a fuller perspective of the effects of war on a culture. I am blessed to be able to connect the two.

Bethesda, Maryland. Oct. 25th.

I spoke at The Barker Foundation to about 35 adoptive parents and adoption social workers, one of whom works State Department implementing The Hague Convention on international adoptions. Among the intelligent and engaged crowd was an adult adoptee, Paul Goodwin, who had been adopted from Cambodia as a child in 1975 by a foreign service employee who escaped from the roof of the US embassy via helicopter at the time of the Khmer Rouge takeover. What a humbling experience to meet someone who lived the history I wrote about.

Afterward, I was invited to speak to the office of Children’s Services at the State Department for National Adoption Month in November. The State Department employee who witnessed my presentation says “the government workers need to see that this is what adoption is all about.” I look forward to the opportunity.

North Haven, Connecticut Oct. 26th

Father Matt Lincoln at Saint John’s Episcopal church in North Haven had been reading passages from my book in his sermons for several weeks, so half the congregation showed up to hear me speak. I was honored by both the diversity of the audience and their heartfelt compassion for Cambodia’s unknown story. A woman in her seventies, Alberta Delguidice, told me she read the book twice and enjoyed it as much the second time. As a mother of two young children, I can’t imagine having time to read the same book twice, but I am honored by the attention that St. John’s Episcopal has given this story. It is a busy world afterall.

Schnectady, New York Oct. 27th

At the Open Door Bookstore, I met Lay Heng, a Cambodian woman with a most unlikely background, a graduate of Phnom Pehn University pursuing PhD. in education at SUNY Albany! After my presentation about sustainability for Cambodian Schools, she said to me, ” I love your program, it makes so much sense, what you are saying is so logical. ” She continued, “But for me, as a Cambodian, I cannot say what you are saying, it would mean trouble for my family.”

What she means is that a Cambodian cannot call a spade a spade, as I do, without fear of reprisal. I assume that the Cambodian government will not change, and stop the corruption in favor of supporting schools. Change must come from the bottom up, that is why community based economic development in support of a schools empower a local community with control over its own educational future. Ms. Heng was smiling when I told her, “you get your PhD and I’ll create s school supporting model that works, and then we’ll go to the government together!” With proven success on our side, they can’t say no.

Boston, (Jamaca Plain) , Massachesettes Oct. 28th.

A fantastic Cambodian meal was served at the Wonderspice Cafe, where I spoke to about 25 people with a passionate interest in social justice. The connection between what happened in Cambodia and what is currently happening in Iraq was not lost on them. The restaurant’s owner, Dhavi, is a Cambodian woman who escaped before the war, worked in Thai refugee camps in the 1980’s, and adopted a son orphaned by war. The soul connection we mothers feel has the power to transform the world.

George Mason University, Alexandria Virgina, Oct. 29th.

I spoke to 50 students in the sustainable tourism program, engaged in a semester project to create a business plan for the future “Green Lion” Eco-lodge at the Grady Grossman School. The students bulleted me with questions and a discussion of great ideas surfaced. They seemed grateful to work on real world problems and to be a part of positive change.

Upcoming….Nov. 17…..Denver,Colorado

I will be speaking to the International Baccalaureate regional conference in Denver, Colorado, as part of their Awareness to Action program, along with my personal hero Loung Ung, author of First They Killed My Father. We hope to engage students all over the Rocky Mountain region in support of Cambodian schools, working as English tutors in our future VOIP English tutoring program….stay tuned.

Who knows where the Magical Mystery Book Tour will lead next?

Would you like it to be your town? Contact me!

Keeping the Faith

October 26, 2007 By: Kari Category: Bones That Float, Events, General No Comments →

I’m out on the road again, this time taking our mission for education in Cambodia to audiences in Philadelphia, PA, Bethesda, MD, North Haven, CT, Albany, NY, Boston, MA, and George Mason University, VA. All of these events have been organized by inspired readers of my book, Bones That Float, A Story of Adopting Cambodia, who feel that its message needs to spread. I am deeply honored by their personal commitment to our message of sustainability, education, social justice and faith. What a way to do a book tour! This is one of those reassuring moments, when I feel glad I turned down a publisher a year ago and decided to go it alone. I like getting people involved in our movement.

It’s a lot of work promoting a book on your own, but I keep the faith that the hundreds of people I talk to at these presentations will become inspired to take action. Because, my friends, it is going to take action to end poverty and oppression in this world. One-to-one relationship building, that’s what grassroots is all about, and I’m a grassroots kind of girl. I believe in people.

And then something like this comes in from Mother Jones, an article entitled Did I Steal My Daughter?, penned by an adoptive mother of a child from Guatemala. Guatemala is about to follow Cambodia down the aisle of countries closed to adoption by the US government due to accusations of corruption. Cambodia holds the distinction of being the first. One of the posted comments suggests reading Bones That Float, an excellent example of these issues fully explored. I’m proud of that, because the reader who made the comment is not an adoptive parent.

I wrote Bones That Float because I needed to examine the conditions in contemporary Cambodia that create both the child care crisis and corruption. When we adopted out son Grady, I read every book I could find about Cambodia, and I bought 20 copies of the war memoir First They Killed My Father, by Loung Ung, and made my entire family read it. After going there and starting a school, I wanted a book that would tie that war history to the conditions of the present day, and there weren’t any. So I wrote one. My book remains the only one I know of to tie Cambodia’s war 30 years ago to the present state of affairs. The journey is summed up in the title “Bones That Float,” a phrase that came to me from my son’s birthmother, to describe his good fortune, to have bones that rise above suffering and float away.

Kari on KOMO-TV (ABC) in Seattle

October 09, 2007 By: Kari Category: General, Grady Grossman School, News Clips, Video and Audio No Comments →

I was invited to talk about our school in Cambodia on the ABC-TV affiliate in Seattle, Washington. KOMO-TV’s Northwest Afternoon show was most interested in hearing about how “one person really can make a difference.”

I received this email from a Cambodian American viewer after the show….

“I was thrilled to have been home on Monday and have watched you on the NW Afternoon show. It was inspiring. I’m honor that you have chosen to adopt a Cambodian baby…how awesome is that. Your son is so blessed to have you. I’m Cambodian and came to the U.S. in the early 80’s. I’m very proud of you and what you have accomplished and in opening up your heart to the other side of the world and all that you have done for the Cambodian people.” Thank you, Sreytouch Ryser - Seattle

On Bones That Float: A response from a Cambodian American reader…

“Thank you for the inspirational story. I felt myself being part of Maly’s life. Her story is very similar to mine. It was as if I was reading about my life. It has always been my dream to write and to let many know what I and millions of Cambodian went through during the Khmer Rouge time. I feel the need to educate many about what war does to the spirit of human beings. I see so much violence and hatred among people and it is becoming more and more so. I just want to thank you for your powerful words in your book. I am grateful for your being to help the people of Cambodia. I wish I could only find the strength like you.” Thank you, Chanda Luker - Maine

It’s an honor to hear from the people who lived it, that I got it right….embed>